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My Old Man
Painted pictures and memories make it hard for me to find a likable person in the man I call father.
 
A troubled childhood and a countless past that only dredges up tragedy and hurt in my life. He went through life, unsorry and not caring how it would affect me, as well as the rest of my siblings.
 
While I long to say I love him and as a son, I do love him but as a dad, I can't.
 
I do cherish every second spent with him. It cant replace all the time he chose to not be a part of my life.
 
It is a sobering reminder that life is about change. While I choose to forgive him, I can never forget the sorrow I felt.
 
The many times I cried longing for my dad and some whore would be more important.
 
Never hearing the words I longed for "I'm proud of you." Those words would have echoed for eternity.
 
Convictions of the heart and sadness soon gets filled with resentment and hate but rather, I feel nothing but sorrow for him now.
 
Like anyone aging, our body weakens and we need someone to be there when things get rough. What will he do, when that time comes? Will I be the bigger person and step up to the plate or will I just follow in the foot steps of my old man?

Gay Marriage in Prison
 
What are the religious fakes on the political right so afraid of, seeking political rights and laws that rule against gay marriage? Do they see the spark of it in themselves?

On the other side, the homosexuals seem to think that they should have the same legal benefits that heterosexuals enjoy. Like "straights," gay persons form more or less long-lasting loving couples. Apparently, they figure that their relationships merit formalization, respect and recognition in the same ways that traditional couples marry. Since there are no offspring to be legitimized, it's a little unclear why the gay couples are wanting their voice heard. Perhaps they're demanding dignity in the eyes of "equal protection of the laws."

In Pennsylvania, at least, marriage among homosexuals is seldom a formal, legal bond, and that is probably just as well or is it? They would likely have the same kinds of ugly, painful divorce problems which destroy more than half of today's traditional marriages. Gays seem to form what might be called "common law" marriages. They agree between themselves that they are married and will be faithful to one another. Sometimes it works, some times it doesn't; just like with everybody else.

Of course, "common law gay marriage" doesn't allow one partner to represent the other during illness, hospitalization, financial crisis and so forth. Although many go one step further with wills and such to weep such advantages.

There is no shortage of gays in Pennsylvania's prisons, both among the staff and the prisoners. We know of no case of a formalized gay marriage in either group. There are many cases of informal or "common law" marriages and of long-lasting, loving relationships in both groups.

Pennsylvania prisons seem to have somewhat fewer homosexuals than in Southern prisons. Apparently, the more Christian an area is, the more queer it is. Of course, the more Christian the area, the more hypocritical. Something about religion turns many people into dangerous phonies. Religion should be indulged in very small doses.

In any event, there's plenty of homosexuality in the Pennsylvania prison system. Prison causes many bisexual persons to focus on their homosexual side. Had it not been for prison, most of the bisexuals would have had little on no overt homosexual activity. That's true at least for the prisoners. It seems to be different among the prison staff.

In the Pennsylvania prisons there are at least as many queers among the staff as among the prisoners. Many of the men working in prison are at least bisexual. They work in the prisons to enjoy being around brawn and musk. Only a small percentage of them actually seek sex with the prisoners. It's largely just a spectator sport.

Many if not most of the female prison guards are lesbians. They have no interest in the male prisoners more than a farmer cares about her cattle. Other female employees are no more likely to be lesbians than in any other line of work. However, they have a strong proclivity for personality defects and psychological problems. Most have rejected sexuality in favor of money, aggression and/or angry angst.

Among the staff, it's much more common for guards to "marry" one another than to form relationships with prisoners (either homosexual or heterosexual). That's no doubt just as well for the prisoners.

At the state prison at Camp Hill across the river from Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, there are plenty of homosexuals. Here we mention two situations which amount to "gay marriage," at least of the common law variety. The first is between lesbian guards.

The women are rapidly approaching middle age. One is somewhat older that the other. They are rather heavy and not very attractive in a heterosexual sense. They aren't overly masculine, nor overly aggressive. In fact they are often cordial with some prisoners.

The women try to hide their relationship and pretend to live apart. The sexual pleasures they exchange are certainly none of our business, but they seem to have a loving relationship which has persisted for some time. They probably get along better than many traditional marriages.

The second "gay marriage" is between a pair of Afro-American men, long-term prisoners. Their relationship is tempestuous at best, but apparently sexually mutually satisfying. While the men seem to love one another, they don't seem to respect one another. Both seem to regard homosexuality as a weakness. They appear to hate themselves and, to some extent, to hate one another. Nonetheless, they are faithful.

The younger man is especially critical and bitchy about his older partner. It doesn't seem to stop them from having a lot of sex. The older partner seems to have an almost paternal caring for his younger partner. He shows an over affection for him.

Again, it's certainly none of our business what sexual activities the men exchange, but they've been together for a long time. The staff seems to recognize that the prisoners are "married." They don't interfere because the relationship causes no problems for the staff.

That's only one couple or "gay marriage" among perhaps 40 in the Camp Hill prison. Among the prisoners in the whole Pennsylvania imprisonment system, there are probably 350 to 450 "gay marriages" and perhaps half that number among the staff. The staff (at least the male staff) tends to be far more promiscuous.

From a social perspective, there may be some advantages to gay marriage for the same reasons and in the same ways as for traditional marriages. Granted, neither is a perfect social institution, but perhaps enduring relationships help to stabilize the social fabric. It may also slow the population explosion.


Thank You, Mom 
 
Thank you Mom, for bringing me up with standards in life as well as morals. I believe that you have made me the best person I could possibly be. I am a happy, outgoing individual who loves himself with a purpose in life to give back to the community around me. You have enstilled in me the fight to live. Many people go through life seeing all the negatives in their lives, I look at the positives.
 
Thank you Mom, for making me see its better to love and forgive than to hate and stay mad. I see others who only hurt themselves and spend all their time thinking of how to hurt someone who wronged them in the past. In the long run, its them that only hurts.
 
Thank you Mom, for giving me life. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't have had the chance to go through life and see both the good and bad sides of it. While we have been through some of the most trying situations we still walk on the good side of the world and our heart is still in tact and able to love.
 
Thank you Mom, for giving me the drive to keep going. If not for you during my surgery, you and Lynetta, I would have never made it through. Your belief in me and the love and support you showed sitting in that recliner for 31 days made me realize there was a reason to fight.
 
Thank you Mom, I am proud to say I am your son. You have made a unique individual in me and one that is not afraid to take on the world even if it means butting a few heads along the way. You have enstilled in me, to never give up on my dreams. Ultimately, I just want you to know I love you more than anything and if I had to choose one person to be exactly like, it would be YOU!
 
So , Thank you Mom.
Bar Life
 
I never really thought much of the bar life except back when I came out of the closet. The reason it meant so much to me then was the fact that, I was networking with other gay people. A group of people who were exactly like me but afraid to be themselves out in public. So the bars were our safe haven, and the only place we could feel comfortable and protected.
 
These times were equal opportunities for gay men and women,  it was a time of being able to be established as a working part of society even if it was behind the confines of our local gay club.
 
The bar scene became known and began to become a stage and open invitations for crossdressers and transgendered people who wanted to showcase their talent as an entertainer. Even in society today, they still exist as a part of the weekend entertainment. Although, today there are many other forms of entertainment in the clubs: male entertainment, strippers, comedians, pool, and so much more.
 
The biggest change with bar life today is the fact that being gay is not something that is so different. With media, and peoples attitudes toward the LGBT community changing for the positive, we are finally able to do things outside the gay bars. We can finally walk through the mall with our lover and not get looks. We can go to bowling alleys, skating rinks, pool halls, and feel comfortable enough to not have to continuously look over our shoulders.
 
With that being said, the bar life is still there for the LGBT community but the support it once had is beginning to see a decline. It's not because of the establishment itself, it is the fact that the community sees that life doesn't have to revolve around a club and booze. We can enjoy life in different aspects as well as the clubs that provide us with exclusively GAY entertainment.
 

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